You microorganism you.

What if I told you there was a big circular thang....it has this liquid iron core in the middle of it that creates a magnetic field in the middle from its spinning.
Aligning the solid portion of this circle was these tiny little microorganisms with these rather impressive brains, there were about 6 to 7 billion of them.
These brains spend everyday driving these little pieces of metal to a place where they make money to survive.
These tiny microorganisms hate each other. They do jot have to meet each other to hate each other- instead they hate each other for how they believe they got there and what color or accent each microorganism has.
They kill each other, they chirp nasty hateful things but yet... they are all the same.
So you have 7 billion people who just hate on each other....and for what REAL reason really?

Happy New Year, here's a little pep talk.

New years pep talk from me.
Lucky you!

1. You know those people that only have you around when you want something? Those ones that never greet you or answer you or call you but otherwise only offer you attention when it benefits them? They need to go.

2. You know those people who pick on you for your flaws or mentally compete with you all the time? The ones that put you down and think they or their people do better? They need to go too.

3. You know those energy suckers? Those negative people that bitch and bitch and bitch about how horrible their lives are with no thought or actual caring to your life or wellbeing? The ones who throw out nothing more than an obligatory HOW ARE YOU before directing the conversation to them and them only?
Get rid of them too.

You see, you deserve better than mentally taxing relationships. You need to focus on those who are true to you, who you feel like benefits you and who you too can equally give valuble love to.
Find your namaste people.

A stagnate relationship is one thing, we all have and need acquaintances and old friends.

But a friendship isn't measured on length of time, money, or routine..... its measured on value and love.

Does your heart light up or smile when (this tested) person is near you?
Okay, now ask yourself why or why not?

Be around family and friends that make you feel
TOTALLY ALIVE.
They are sometimes few and far between; and things will never be exciting 100% of the time; but your heart tells you when a friendship is healthy. Sometimes it surprises you in the most oddest place in the most oddest timing.

Make sure you take care of yourself in 2016. You deserve it.

Why racism in the 21st century?

I don't get it. I just don't.

Middle Eastern racism is OK
Black racism is FROWNED UPON
Mexican racism is OK, unless there's a Mexican in the room.
If you're a Spainyard, it's ok..because they were making fun of Mexicans.

None of it is OK, just because Middle Easterns didn't have a Martin Luther King or were sold as slaves, doesn't mean we can pick on them instead.

Someone in one of my classes made a comment today that boiled my soul.

In my class we divided into groups where we had to discuss issues and form a speech basis.

The group next to me has a Saudi Arabian man in their group, who got up and left in the middle of group work.

I said "why did 'so and so' (nameless to protect the innocent) leave?"

One student says "I don't know, maybe because we were talking about bombs".

I let out a ::gasp::

She said "no REALLY!"

What breaks my heart? I really think she DIDN'T get how racist that sounded.

I thought: "it would be like if they were black, and she said something along the lines of a fried chicken plate disappearing". Horribly wrong, and we know this because the person is black. 

What breaks my heart more? Nobody gets it.

Just because they are middle eastern, doesn't mean they affiliate with explosives.
Just because a guy drove a plane into two buildings who was middle eastern, doesn't mean they're all terrorists.

I have made two friends this term who I greatly respect and love, and I hate that America still won't get the horribly racist ideas about all Middle Easterns out of their heads.

We can't be that naieve, that stupid, we just shut our eyes, play the victim, and refuse to get rid of the racism and schemas that come with skin color.

Pesty phesty

I don't usually post Facebook banter on personal blogs-but here goes.

Recently an article in Psychology today talked about why people don't reply to messages.

I'm a person who advocates being an introvert- so I apologize if you're feeling my opinion reflect that too much.

Here goes: all raw and true.

I see a lot of self entitled individuals on this post.
A cell phone is a LUXURY.
I have a family, pets, stuff going on, people to see, driving to do, places to go.
I'm not going to just stop what I'm doing and reply to you.
What happened when you wanted to send me a message in "1975'. You left a message on my answering machine.
What about in 1900?
You didn't. See? Exactly.
I need to unplug, collaborate, and listen.

The other day I had lunch with a friend of mine, we didn't touch our phones the entire time we ate and waited for our food. We had fun and enjoyed each others company.
I wouldn't trade my good times, NOT PLUGGED IN, for anything. Not even your stupid text message.
My family is more important, my friends are more important, my well being is more important.

Work is hell on the home front

One of the greatest professors I ever had was a math professor a couple of years ago.
I can name about 5 or 10 that I have had a Clark that I've had a deeper impact on me then just the subject they are teaching.
He had a way of incorporating life lessons in algebraic equations in one of the things I learned from him that was probably something really mentioned in passing was
"Don't bring your work home."

Sure it's a phrase everybody has heard that sounds simple enough, but yet most of us do it anyways.

I get home the office calls, other caregivers call and text asking how the day went, I have to get voicemails during school breaks talking about how ugly things happened for that day and I have to worry about friends and relatives coming over babbling on about the same job that I have to put up with during the day.

I have a sister who's a lot older than I am and works the same job I do at the same company. She uses her own non-hippa violating stories as small talk when she makes an occasional visit on the weekend-and spends a lot of time on it.

One of my moms closest friends and I share a client, so when she comes over to visit I have to hear sometimes about things that happen when I'm not there.

Each time I'm caught in a scenario that is to worky for too long, I change the subject.
Part of my family thinks I'm crazy but I have a very exponentially stressful job.

We all do, while I'm not sure how it affects me from how it affects others I have my own coping method for dealing, just as they do.

I am polite enough to not say this to them and subtle enough to change the subject without it being odd, but going back to professor Joe's idea on work and home being separate, I have made a personal choice and I do not let the natural negativity affect my life outside of the workplace so I can deal inside the work place a lot better.

When my business takes off and I'm working from home that's going to be a different demon, but for now I am perfectly content with
"HOW BOUT THOSE MARINERS."

Cecil the lion and the public humility that is Walter Palmer

As an advocate for the voiceless, I felt as if writing a blog on this was completely necessary.

Most of you have heard the story about Cecil the lion and the dentist (Walter Palmer) that payed $55,000 to have him killed. Not for the purposes of meat, but for the purposes of self satisfaction, a pelt on his floor, and a head on his wall.

The first thing my the fine people of the internet started doing was writing messages regarding what a dark person he is. One particular place targeted was his Yelp page for his dental business.

According to Venture beat, Yelp was relatively upset about the manner and went and deleted the reviews regarding pointing out this Lion killing dentist, making a claim about the combination of business and politics.
While usually this would be a wise decision since the combination of Business and politics is usually an ugly ugly disaster that breeds arrogance and debt, this is definitely a case of moral that Yelp isn't considering and has probably made this decision to save their own ass.

While I usually fully support the separation of business and politics, I certainly make an exception for a malicious case like this. One has to think, if a man is capable of brutally killing something, torturing and terrorizing it for 40 hours, coaxing it, and putting $55,000 dollars to mount pieces of it on its wall, do you really trust his morals when it comes to working on your teeth?

Anesthesia is usually used, and surprisingly: people CAN die from getting their teeth worked on.
I suppose there is the psychology behind big game hunting but I just can't understand but looking at it from an analytical perspective, it sure looks like malicious behavior.
This isn't a lion that was killed for meat or population control. This lion wasn't threatening anybody. This lion simply died for Walter Palmer's ego.

He could come up front and give his apology that just beat around the "legal issue" bush, but you have to look at the larger picture here.

So do we attack his business and insure he could never practice again? Why not?

He attacked and murdered the beautiful animal, father of 24 cubs, at his weakest point and even lured him out of the sanctuary to do so. So public shaming and losing his business shouldn't occur, because why?

Sometimes, humility and shame needs to occur in order for moral to improve. If you've ever taken a course in sociology, you would know that you respond different in the eyes of others than you do in your own home or personal life.  Sometimes without knowing. It is a natural human instinct to impress others, and humility is a good way to raise moral behavior when it cannot be raised by "giving a shit about the needs of others."

So these people who are out to kill for the sole purpose of killing, how else are they going to learn?
We are much past the point in history where people get killed for bad moral. The world is only getting darker and worse as time goes on. Why that is I am not sure but society has gotten so "overprotective" of these malicious beings that are only creating issues for other people.

This goes back to that childhood fable (was it Aesop?) Where "two wrongs don't make a right" but how else are we to practice good leadership and influence others who clearly cannot learn to practice sympathy or empathy on our own?
What if public shaming taught others to do correct things out of fear if doing wrong is just a part of who they are?

Would love to read a response somewhere on this one.

This is more of a comical relief than a Pinterest fail

So years (and I mean years ago) my Mother gave me this bright idea of "storing things under your bed between your box spring and your mattress like bedding and other linens".
I've had a twin so I've done a lot of folding of these said items and they built up for many years without even getting a look at.
Needless to say, packrat that I am I thought this idea was simply genius and did it for years.
Well, everyone gets in habits and routines, such as: using one or two pairs of sheets and same with a comforter and keeping everything else.
So, after a while, times change, things add up and I notice my mattress is rather lumpy.
Having purchased a new mattress a few years back, I never actually changed my bedframe/box spring and things Bevan to accumulate. Evil things.
After years of "mattress lumpiness". I finally got fed up and stripped everything that has accumulated between my mattress and boxspring-all the way back to thw time period of the old mattress.
Here's the list of junk I found, needless to say my bed has gone down maybe a foot and

For whatever reason (I hope you read that in sarcasm) it feels smooth and flat.
Amongst the items I found:
*My missing Seattle Mariners hat in badass brown and pink.
*about 7 pillow cases
*3 or 4 comforters
4 full sheets sets
*2 baby blankets
*car seat covers
*9 blankets my Mom sewed for me through the years
*7 blankets that were either gifted to me or store bought
*2 snuggys
*4 towells
*a bed skirt
*4 sets of curtains
*tree skirt
*scarf
*my Eddie Bauer bucket hat
*more hats

Did I mention my mattress doesn't feel lumpy anymore?
Problem diagnosed. Now I'm looking at piles of neatly folded linens and looking forward to sleeping in a position that isn't slightly inclined for the first time in my own bed in several years.

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Here is all of the stuff I pulled out from under my bed.

Lesson learned, these things cannot consume me anymore!